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If You Could Just Stop, You Would Have by Now
"I can put a filter on a phone. I can't put a filter on shame." If someone could simply stop compulsive sexual behavior, wouldn't he have by now? Dr. Michael Barta exp...
Dopamine Isn't About Pleasure. Here's What It Really Does
"I don't think someone should accept a claim of expertise simply because a clinician like myself uses the terminology." Is dopamine really the brain's pleasure chemica...
Stop Defending Yourself If You Want Her to Listen
"Your partner may not be delivering her pain in perfect therapeutic language, but everything she's doing is expressing her pain." What do you do when your partner is a...
Why Do I Need Her to Say It's Okay?
"Your emotional stability is still dependent on something outside of you. And now you're asking the woman who is dealing with the consequences of your choices to regul...
Why Does Her Pain Feel Like an Attack?
"Your partner isn't after you going to 50 meetings a week and sponsoring 60 guys. She's after emotional connection." What happens when a man in recovery cannot tolerat...
You Can't Talk Him Into Getting Help
"You can't make another person choose recovery, no matter how hard you try." This one is for the partner who has run out of road. You have cried, pleaded, threatened, ...
Why Understanding Yourself Never Fixed It
"Understanding why you're stuck isn't the same as getting unstuck." Most men who arrive at the intensive have already done a great deal of work. They have been in the...
How Do You Know If You Have a Sex Addiction?
"Most people know they have a problem long before they're willing to admit it. They know it when they hide. They know it when they lie. They know it when they promise ...
What Trauma Really Is (And Why So Many People Miss It)
"That didn't happen to me. I had a pretty good childhood. I don't think I have any trauma." And that's often where the misunderstanding begins. What is trauma, and how...
Episode 25 - Am I Addicted to Sex? (The Truth About Relief vs. Pleasure)
"You tell yourself you're going to stop. You set rules, you promise your partner, you install filters... and yet, you find yourself going back. If you feel like you've...
Episode 24 - Why Relationships Stay Stuck After Betrayal Even When Both People Want Healing
If both partners are genuinely committed to healing after betrayal, why does the relationship still feel stuck? Many couples find themselves trapped in painful, repeti...
Episode 23 - Why Regulation Is Essential for Relationship Healing
In this powerful episode of Reconnection Moments, Dr. Michael Barta reveals a groundbreaking truth: true relationship healing after betrayal isn't about willpower or m...
Episode 21 - The Intensive Is the Beginning, Not the Finish Line
In Episode 21 of Reconnection Moments, Dr. Michael Barta challenges one of the biggest misconceptions in addiction recovery: that treatment is the finish line. While ...
Episode 22 - You Cannot Heal the Relationship Until You Understand and Heal the Cause
"The behaviors have stopped, so why does the relationship still feel broken?" If you are white-knuckling your way through recovery or wondering why emotional distance ...
Episode 20 - Why Insight Alone Does Not Create Lasting Change
One of the biggest misunderstandings in recovery is believing that awareness automatically creates transformation. You can fully understand your trauma, your attachmen...
Episode 19 - Why I Expanded the Intensive Into a 90-Day Experience
In Episode 19 of Reconnection Moments, Dr. Michael Barta unveils one of the most significant updates to the Reconnection Intensive since its creation: a new 90-day gui...
Episode 18 - How Intimacy Disorder Forms
In Episode 18 of Reconnection Podcast, Dr. Michael Barta takes a deeper look into how intimacy disorder forms and why the roots of addiction and emotional disconnectio...
Episode 17 - Intimacy Disorder — The Hidden Root of Addiction
In Episode 17 of Reconnection Moments, Dr. Michael Barta explores one of the core foundations of the Reconnection Model: intimacy disorder and why it is the hidden roo...
Episode 16 - Reconnecting Emotionally After Betrayal
In Episode 16 of Reconnection Podcast, Dr. Michael Barta explores one of the most misunderstood stages of betrayal recovery: emotional reconnection. After trust has be...
Episode 15 - Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
In Episode 15 of Reconnection Moments, Dr. Michael Barta explores one of the most difficult and important questions couples face after betrayal: Is it actually possibl...